Dianne, a friend since high school, was distraught. She bugs me: why men pull away, even when they say they love her?
And why men pull away from the relationship after intimacy?
I gave her a quick, short answer.
“I got to this site wherein a ‘bad boy’ by the name of TDubb explained in video how a woman can capture or recapture the man of his dreams, how to keep him committed, and even marry her without resorting to gimmicks or threats.”
Dianne had two previous relationships which didn’t work out well. Her first was with Bobby. They had one year of passionate relationship. She described it as hot, and cold, ”tumultuous”,was another descriptor she said.
When Bobby pulled away , Michael came. This time, she learned enough from her previous relationship. But it didn’t last. They lasted three years, though.
Now, she’s with Harry, for two years now. But, it appears they are heading in the same direction.
She can’t understand why Harry says he loves her, yet won’t commit to her, or propose to marry her despite the “all” that she has given to him.
Now, at 32, and her biological clock ticking away, she’s frustrated. She even began to have doubts about her self worth. And she’s desperately groping for answers … how she can keep her man.
Video – When men pull away or lose interest …
Six months later, she sent me this video. She appears very happy and fulfilled.
She finally met the man who’d die to be by her side. How did she do it?
Let her do the talking. So short, and sweet!
What was the “top secret” she found out?
My long answer why men pull away …
I started with a contentious bombshell.
In about 80% of the time, how a man loves you has nothing to do with with his willinness to commit to you, or marry you.
Did I hear howls of protests?
Many will agree or disagree with this statement.
Most men will agree, most women won’t.
See, the gender factor alone, tells a lot about how men and women think differently.
Over a cup of Starbucks, I explained to her three secrets men keep close to their hearts. The funny thing is, most of them are not even aware of this.
Secret #1 – Men process their feelings in their guts, women, in their hearts.
Understanding this is crucial.
A simple solution is to always is to always keep the communication lines open.
“But what if he is the one who shuts the line off?”
I answered her with a question.
“Do you think that if he reacts that way, you can keep on keeping up with him?”
Then, I followed it up with this thought.
Men, typically won’t speak up unless they think of you as a confidante who can keep secrets, and not someone who will use the same knowledge to hurt them.
So, another thing to ponder is: how do you become a confidante to him? And in the process, how does he become a confidante to you?
Men have a mission in Life …
This is a very important concept. If there’s only one thins that you must remember, this is it.
Secret #2 – Men have this “mission in life” to fulfill”.
Most men are not conscious about this, but deep in their guts … they want to prove something to themselves. TDubb calls this the “hero avatar”.
This is probably, the primary reason why men won’t move up to next level of commitment.
Even if he’s had “everything” with you, if his gut tells him that you will make his load heavier on his journey to complete his “mission”, he will dilly-dally, or keep on vacillating.
So unless that he sees you and feels deep inside him, that you are THE ONE who would lighten up his load and help him reach his “mission” in life … chances are that he’d still pull away.
The Real Him
Secret #3 – Men are really soft inside, and they too, want to be loved for the “real him”, warts and all.
This is tricky.
At the start of any relationship, when men start to strut around you – they will usually put their best “mask” forward.
Men may buy you expensive gifts, and invite you to expensive dinners. Men will want to impress you to get your attention.
But, if you already have given him your attention, and reciprocated your interest in him, he will then start to think about showing or revealing the real him for you.
The problem is, he may not yet be comfortable about this.
If he feels safe and trusts you enough, he will. If not, he will continue to wear his mask.
This question bugs him: What if you reject him?
So, if you keep on expecting that you go to fancy restaurants, be given fancy gifts, and fancy everything … he may start to think that you fancy him only because of the fancy things he can give.
This is a “yellow” light that may lead to a “red” light.
What to do?
When you eat out, offer to pay the bill. He will refuse this 95% of the time.
But, if you insist, and even “intercept” the bill … you send him a different signal that it’s not the “fancy” things that you like in him.
An easier thing to do is encourage him to take you to the less expensive restaurants in the likes of McDonald’s, Taco Bell, or Carl’s Jr. Or, suggest gifts that are meaningful yet not expensive.
Or time alone, when you can be intimate without necessary being physical.
It is important that you make him feel that it is “him”, that you really fancy. And not the fancy things that he gives you, which seldom lasts anyway.
This way, you are telling him that you like the “real him”.
Secret #4 – How not to make your man pull away …
Finally, I told her that there is a fourth one.
“A fourth one?”
Yes I said. Not only 4, but more!
You see, men, are like women. They are a complex creature.
“If you are really interested”, I said, “to understand men, and get the man you’d like to live with, and be married with in bliss till death do you apart”, I continued, “then, do your future family a favor.”
“What is it?”, she looked at me in anticipation.
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Summary- Top 3 Secrets Why Men Pull Away
1. Men want to be able to open up their deepest and most sacred thoughts to their girls “chaff and grain” together without getting “busted”.
2. Men have a “mission in life”. It’s up to you to make him feel that you can make his journey lighter. Or, heavier.
3. Men want to be loved and appreciated for the real him, and not the “mask” or front, that they wear.
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